BPF late night shrimping #noms #family
this was a good night
Bare with this analogy for the sake of argument. You have a limited amount of time so you can only nurture one of three.
You can spend time nurturing a dog, which will treat you with equal or more kindness - it will require much less effort than the other two and grant you lots of happiness. It will protect you at night and will always keep you company.
You can also choose to nurture a stray cat. It won’t show you much kindness due to its natural disposition, but is in much more need for care also. It will however still be grateful, accompany you from time to time, and will occasionally hunt a mouse for you.
Or lastly, you can choose to nurture a lamprey. It will show you no kindness. It may suck the blood of something posing a threat to you, but in reality it is only trying to sustain itself and you just so happened to benefit from it. In all likelihood, because you choose to be the one closest to it, you will most often be its victim. When you have no more blood for it to suck, it will disregard you.
Now, as living things, they all deserve a chance to live. But there is a reason no one likes lampreys, and it’s not your responsibility to nurture something that is way more trouble than its worth, and no one will benefit from in the end. There is a possibility that the lamprey might be able to save someone down the road by extracting a deadly disease, but modern medicine can do that too.
The dog is a friend. You help each other mutually and your give/take is more or less even.
The cat is doing charity in a non-literal sense. You give a lot more than you get, but there is still merit behind it, and occasionally you are rewarded for it.
The lamprey is a shitty friend. He is a leech, he takes as much as he can and gives as little as possible. He will very rarely show a glimpse of improvement in bettering his peers or society, but even that will quickly prove be a stroke of luck or a selfish act beneath the intention. The snowball’s chance in hell that he may change is discounted by the last part of the analogy:
Modern medicine is the fact that 100% of all non-shitty people can bring to the world any amount of happiness/positivity/productivity that shitty friend would of brought, without the same amount of deceit, stealing, waste of time, negativity and endless anger.
You can argue that this analogy is flawed because you can’t compare a shitty person to a lamprey - but if they show no evidence to the contrary, how can that be justified? You can show virtue by still placing faith in this person, but there is much more virtue, merit, and enjoyment in investing the same amount of time in friends or charity, who deserve it more.
I can’t say for sure whether the dog or cat deserves the nurturing more - but I’m sure as hell not nurturing the lamprey.
i wanted to write this something like this for a long time, but it seems like the topic is like beating to a dead horse - but i would rather express my opinion about it than let it fester inside of me
although choreo and freestyle are both considered dance, i think that one judges the other by their own standards of dance - it is a likeness to judging another person based on your own personal upbringing. it is natural but at the same time very flawed and unfair.
the way that i see it (as an analogy), choreo is traditional music. i dont mean mainstream - i mean structured, planned, and revised. freestyling, fittingly, is like freestyle rap. now, a large criticism is that choreo dancers dont express because the movement is not spontaneous, or that they’re doing the movements of others. for not only centuries, but millennia, musicians have been playing the music of others. do you think that millions of musicians, jascha heifetz playing the violin, yoyo ma playing the cello, etc - that these musicians are not expressing? they emulate the vision of the composer, but in no way does that detract from their expression - in fact, i daresay that heifetz plays bach’s masterpiece chaconne better than bach himself (though it is only a conjecture). now compare that with freestyle rap, which, let’s just establish is meaningful, expressive, impressive, etc - although both can be considered musical talent, it is like comparing apples and oranges.
freestyle obviously has it’s merits, and to be honest, choreo dancers appreciate that. we might not understand it, which detracts from our appreciation, but we recognize that it is difficult and it amazes us. now here i’m going to make a gross generalization, but i truly feel that while a lot freestyle dancers claim that they can’t do choreo, they don’t believe it requires a similar amount of dedication and hardwork. we dont practice foundation in the same way, but we practice pieces - the same way classical musicians grow by learning different or more challenging pieces.
i understand that spontaneity channels a certain kind of rawness, but that is not the definition of dance. many things take time to develop a full picture - no masterpiece novel was written without revisions and planning. i can appreciate both the talented gypsy violinist and yet still appreciate mendelssohn. now, i dont think it is necessary for either to respect and appreciate one another, but i think as musicians it is a huge pity because they can learn from and inspire one another. and dance is the same way.
now i know i made a lot of generalizations, but i do know that this is not everyone. lots of people i respect, mark flux, brian green, katalyst, etc are extremely openminded. but in terms of the boston scene, it continues to bring me down. choreo dancers obviously receive respect from other choreo dancers, but to constantly be put down from a lack of understanding from fellow dancers is narrow-mindedness. i talked with a close bboy friend about this recently, and he said that narrow-mindedness was part of the bboy mentality, but if you really think about it, that’s what racism is. (i understand that he does not represent all of bboy culture, but his view is definitely shared by many) if dance truly is your lifestyle, think of different dance styles as different human cultures. and if you truly love dance, you should be able to see past style barriers and appreciate that in the end we are trying to further our means of physical expression for the sake of art and living.
i guess this is getting too long, but last but not least, i know that there is a lot of bias here - i am providing a lot more support for one side. i do believe that the fault belongs to both sides, but my bias comes from the fact that there is a lot more negative energy directed at choreo dancers than vice versa.
this is a vent so i dont mind if it goes unnoticed, but if you do have an opinion, please talk to me about it because this topic is very important to me. on one side, as a dancer and the integrity of my art, but also partly because this conflict has seeped into my personal life and i hope that it can find peace soon.
i miss high school love
Receptionist: Don’t you feel like your generation is just lazy?Me: Lazy? I’d say apathetic.Receptionist: Isn’t it the same?Me: No. My generation is criticized and toiled with, and I don’t see why not - just turn on the TV and watch what they’re feeding us. But my generation is not lazy. My generation fought in Iraq and Afghanistan. My generation fought for womens rights in a fury that hadn’t been seen since the 19th Amendment. My generation got our first black President elected. My generation fought for Gay rights for the first time in American history. And with all that, we are apathetic, and that’s because things aren’t going to be better for us down the road. We are the first generation expected to make less than our parents. We are the first generation to see America lost its status as a super power. We’ve lived through the worst economic times since the Great Depression, and are forced to take out thousands of dollars in student loans at the same time, all while our college degrees slowly turn into a highschool diploma. We’ve done plenty, and expect nothing. So no, I wouldn’t say we’re lazy, just apathetic.
I don’t believe our generation is lazy, nor do I think it is truly apathetic - I think it may be popular culture to be apathetic but that’s a whole different stupid topic.
What’s wrong with this generation is that we think we are special. America fought in Afghanistan and Iraq - and no disrespect, it is a big deal, but Vietnam, WWI, WWII are on a whole different level. We are passionate about our gay and women’s rights, but the movement is not nearly as revolutionary as the fight for, say, black rights. Other countries have suffered worse economic downturns, and some are suffering more despite not even being in an economic rut.
Our country may be falling as a leading superpower for once, but how long have we been in that position anyways? Compared to the Roman Golden Age, British Imperialism, Alexander the Great’s empire, our mark in history is large but by no means more significant (an understatement). And our college degrees may be worth less, but that still puts us in the 1 percent (worldwide).
We speak of our hardships as if they are extraordinary or unique. Why are we so dignified in overcoming obstacles that are faced by almost every nation and many generations - especially when the struggles that a large amount of us face at our “worst” is still less hardship than what other generations and nations face at their finest?
I may be out of line or straight up ignorant in some of these over-generalizations - but the overall undeserved entitlement of our generation to be special (with no help from the rise of social media) is no exaggeration… If anything, we are just the self centered generation. Sorry for the wall of text and fight club speech.
And that’s a wrap!
Ungh all the hard work paid off… Empty seat where Adriyum should be sitting…
So, Facebook recently released a new feature - “2012 in review”. Any new Facebook feature is usually some bit of innovation combined with a larger bit of inconvenience or genuine confusion. However, upon opening the link I was pleasantly surprised… It was a well chosen collection of memories that nostalgically summed up 2012.
I never thought I would look back on this year so fondly, especially with the ups and downs and transitions - especially when I so revered the golden year of G1. Yet, from JD Montreal to Cali to New York… From Bulletproof to Upro to just 303/G1 crew, I never thought there would be so many moments from this year that can stop and make me smile.
The delicious meal at Eggspectation…
Finally figuring out that Static’s set was about the news…
Being on top of “the top of the world” (with Andrew too)…
First UPRO show back…
1179 Beacon after Thursday practice hangouts…
Honestly, this list could go on and on and the pictures would take forever to scroll through… but I’m extremely grateful for the experiences that I’ve had this year. The happiness that all these memories have brought me make it a little easier to face the future, not only because I know you guys will always be there, but also because I know that as long as you guys are there it will be a good time. Shout out to Nick Lee, Lizz Yu, Lou Lin and Adrian Ho… I’m not really the type to keep in touch or have long catch up conversations but I miss you guys every day. No homo, please don’t make fun of me.